Saturday, August 4, 2012


My daughter-in-law, Frances, might as well have a PhD in Organization......she's that good at it. She offered to be helpful in sorting through what's in my Assisted Living room, so yesterday, we started the task. Two hours later I was in tears at the need to dump so much of what I had thought to be important. Letters from authors and illustrators, lots of little notebooks with tidbits of information, important to no one but myself, articles about places I'd hoped to visit, restaurant possibilities. Goodbye to all of it.

One thing I happened across was the draft of the speech I gave at Chris and Frances's wedding banquet five years ago. It was one of the happiest occasions I'd ever attended. was THE most jubilant gathering of my life (tied, perhaps, by Mr. Bob's memorial service.....more on that tomorrow).

Here's what I had to say:

I can't tell you how happy I am to be here at this celebration. Most of you are probably aware that Chris and Frances have known each other for 20 years and have been "an item" for the last twelve years. Tonight I have a few words to say about patience.

Christopher, from birth, has always done things in his own good time and in his own way. When he was two years old we enrolled in a Mommy & Me class and on the first day of the session he refused the offer of bells and wouldn't march with the other children in a circle. He stood close by my side and watched. This went on for week after week until finally one day he accepted the bells and joined in the march.........never mind that he went in the opposite direction of his classmates.  I felt that my patience had paid off.

Several years ago Frances related an interesting story about something that had happened with a friend and I said, "Frances, we should have a party so I could meet all of your interesting friends." and Frances's answer surprised me when she said, "That would be called a wedding." At that time there were no upcoming plans for a marriage between our son and his beloved Frances, but patience was called into practice......and here we are tonight, celebrating with family and friends that wedding which took place yesterday.

Along with wishing this perfectly matched couple a long and happy marriage, I'd like to take this opportunity to thank the Hui family for the patience you've displayed and to assure you that when a Humphrey male finally commits with his heart and soul, it's forever.

                                                                                                                            Next, Mr. Bob said a few words during which his emotions rose to the surface. It was an evening of happy tears, laughter, and tremendous good cheer as the occupants of the head table worked their way through the room to give each guest the opportunity to toast the newlyweds.

I'm not at all sure that I didn't blog about this five years ago. I hope your memory of reading about it is as foggy as my own.

Have patience. All things are difficult before they become easy.Saadi


  1. Now that was a lovely complete post, pictures and all,,. By jove, I think she's got it!! I'm so glad so you can be off and running.

    That little Owen is one cutie, yes?



  2. How beautiful to see these pictures! Thank you for toasting once again what must have been a completely fabulous celebration!


  3. This is wonderful ! Keep it up.
    A Non Y Mouse LaVOna

  4. Words flying all over the place, can hardly keep up with you! You're my model.

  5. Oh my..... i love your writings. No no.... i hope you donated them and did not through them away, as i love history.....Gentle transitions work is in my blood!

  6. Your happiness is now my happiness. Thank you. The pictures may be worth a 1000 words---but your words were moving enough to make me cry.


  7. Our First Chinese Wedding also!!!, The Blog brought wonderful memories flooding back, and doesnt Time Fly By!!!.
    The Page has been turned, keep on Blogging.

    The Wrinklies.

  8. Thanks for this beautiful entry in your blog, dear Jane

  9. Oh, what walks down memory lane here. Everyone looks so full of joy and happiness--what a wonderful occasion to celebrate.