MOST OF THE TIME, we enjoy each other.
There has always been much to be happy about:
Laughter has been prevalent in our 57 year long marriage. I'll be the first to admit that we are known to bicker more than the average couple. And sometimes it goes beyond what is known as squabbling and silence blankets the union. Mr. Bob, as a Capricorn is incapable of sustained rage. However a Taurus is not quite so quick to get over hurt feelings and I can go on and on, in a bottomless pool of stillness. Just as our kids used to rejoice in the few times I lost my voice to laryngitis, I'm sure Mr. Bob relishes the periods of silence.
At the moment we're in one of those uncomfortable periods and wouldn't you just know it? We were selected to have our picture taken for some sort of promotional material for Southern California Presbyterian Homes. And we were to pretend we were dancing and having a whale of a good time. This took place yesterday and I'm still reeling from the experience. I've never been drawn to acting and find it most discomforting to pretend. If our current state of irk comes across in the photographs, we certainly won't persuade anyone to move to a retirement facility.
Someday, when I look back at the circumstance, it'll be funny. I have enough objectivity to know that. Right now it just feels like a failed charade.
And for the record, people of all faiths move here.........not only Presbyterians. I think that's part of the purpose of the new marketing, along with showing that many of the residents are young at heart, not doddering old folks.
"Family quarrels have a total bitterness unmatched by others. Yet it sometimes happens that they also have a kind of tang, a pleasantness beneath the unpleasantness, based on the tacit understanding that this is not for keeps; that any limb you climb out on will still be there later for you to climb back."